Then There Is That Friend
Years ago I lost contact with my childhood friend. I remember her getting married and then having her first kid. At that point in my life, I had big dreams; I want to become something big, I wanted to be a busy businesswoman, travel a lot with work, get out in the world and do something.
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Marriage at that point wasn’t for me and having a child was even further away. There comes the point in life where you have to go your separate ways. So quietly we parted. My childhood friends have always been on my mind whenever good thing or bad things happen. I always thought about the things we been through and how we stuck out.
Recently I got in contact with my childhood friend again. By coincident, I ran into her sister and got her number.
I called her and found out that just like me, she was starting her own business, only she was in the process of opening her cafe.
It wasn’t possible to meet up since we were both busy, but we kept in touch during this time.
The other day I finally got the chance to visit her café The South Harbour Cafe, that she chose to open in our old neighborhood.
When I first came to the cafe and met her, It was as time stood still; She looked exactly like herself, just like when we parted 12 years ago. It was such a surreal experience; it felt like I had gone back in time and we were just there, right there where everything had ended.
She was busy managing things that needed her attention, so I sat down to wait for her. While she was working I suddenly saw myself back on her doorstep, picking her up for school. I use to wait for her in the doorway while she combed her hair and fixed her ponytail. Then wait some more while she put on her boots and adjust the shoe laces before continuing to put on her jacket and her schoolbag. If she hadn’t eaten breakfast, her mother would come out with bread for us and then we would be off for school. This routine, this memory might not sound as much but for me, waiting for her was filled with anticipation that we were going to spend the whole day together.
Seeing my childhood friend and talk to her made me immensely happy. She was smiling as always and still had the same uncontrollable laugh. I love that even though she have matured, she still has the go-getter mindset, that nothing can hold her back.
Everything in the cafe is built from scratch; everything is done exactly as she had seen it and wanted. The place is filled with love, and you feel the homely feeling right when you step in. For me the stepping back in time and be right where we have always been was priceless.
At the same time, it also made me sad, to think about how much I have missed out on. When I left everything behind, I just wanted to get out of the neighborhood; Didn’t care what I left behind. I just wanted out and just go after my dream. I never realized that once I said goodbye to the neighborhood, that everything would be left behind for so long.
There are so many things I have missed. I never manage to see her getting her second baby, or see her kids grow up. Last time I saw her she had just given birth to her boy who is 12 today.
Time flies and I missed out. I missed out on all the important things in her life; when she went through her struggles, when she had her second kid, when she started working on her business idea. She has never left my mind, but I have not been good at reaching out. We are still good friends but far from where we use to be.
What I have learned from this is, never be afraid or too busy to reach out to people you miss or love. People grow and before you know it a lot of time have passed and you might find yourself somewhere where you have to start over, for time waits for no one.
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Today I’m happy I reached out. Seeing her brought back all the great things in my childhood, that I had put aside as less important. I still remember all the crazy things we did like was it yesterday, all the basketball we used to play. When I saw my friend time stood still, I felt like the little kid again who just want to play one more game before having to go home.