When Your Job Becomes Your Identity
It’s Monday morning, and it is going to be a great day, I can just feel it!
Nowadays I almost look forward to Monday.
I remember a time not so far ago, where I use to hated Monday. Thinking about starting a work-week, could almost get me depressed, I use to live for Friday and for the weekends. Come Sunday evening, and my stomach would almost turn, just thinking about having to go to work.
I was stuck in a dead-end job, with no appreciation, no growth mentally or spiritually, and when you are in that loop, and just give, give, give, without getting anything in return, at some point, you just don’t have anything more to give.
I hated my job and wanted to find something else, something I would love to do, something I could be passionate about, where I would love to go to work.
But when applying for other jobs, I didn’t have any self-esteem or self-belief. I had a really hard time believing I could get that job; that I wanted, and even if I got the job, would I be able to manage it?
So when I got a rejection or didn’t get to the second interview, it only confirmed my belief, That I wasn’t good enough, and that the job I had, was the only job I was capable of handling.
The thing is that, when you put a thought in motion like I want to get away from this job, whether or not you are ready for it, it will materialize.
What happened next is that I lost my job; the whole department got shut down and moved to another country. There was no chance in hell that I was getting that job back.
There I was without any self-esteem, no comfort zone, and no idea of what I wanted to do. If anyone would ask me what are you good at?
I couldn’t tell; the slate was wiped clean.
Today things have changed; I know I can do whatever I set my mind to. I know that there is nothing that I can’t do, everything can be learned, and you don’t have to be the best, but you can become the best as long as you believe in yourself.
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So how did I get here?
With the help of a very supporting husband, that still saw all the qualities in me that I have forgotten and when I become a mom.When I first sat there with my son in my arms, I realized, that I was the person, that was going to form this little angel.That my strength was going to become his strength and my weakness was going to become his weakness.
I didn’t want him to have an insecure mom, fill with fear and doubt, I wanted him to have the mother that I use to be, strong, confident, a person that goes after what she wants, not afraid of taking risks, anyway what was the worst that could happen?
I’ll end up in a dead-end job again?
Or maybe just maybe, I follow my dream and actually do what I love?
So I took a risk and started following my life passion.
Today I’m the founder of www.howtoimprovemyself.com a site build to help people find their greatness and author of several empowering children book.
Things haven’t been easy; there have been a lot of internal fights, many many doubts, up’s and down’s, but one thing I knew within my heart was, that I wouldn’t give up. This has to work; there are no other options.
This is why it is so important to have a good support system, who can see you for how you really are, especially if you get off track. It doesn’t have to be a husband or becoming a mother that makes the different. Your support system can be your friends, family, good colleagues, even communities, and forums online.
When you first let go, that’s when you start living, allowing good things to come to your life.
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Is this something you can recognize?
Or do you know someone how have been through the same?
I love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.