Do You Love Yourself?
A while back, I got asked: Do you love yourself?
I got a bit chocked to get asked such question, my first thought was, of course, I love myself!
My second thought was, do I?
Do I know what self-love is?
I replied: “What does it mean to love yourself?”
I hear people say it a lot; it is written everywhere but what does it mean to love yourself?
For a person who has been its worse critic, who have always strived for perfection, always had a very high expectation to herself I don’t know how it feels to love myself.
I have worked a lot on myself. I read a lot, I tap, meditate, and I’m at a place where I like myself or are even contempt with myself.
Is that what’s called self-love?
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The person looked at me and smiled.
She said: “To love yourself, feels the same way you love your son.”
I was speechless! That is not the way I feel about myself; I’m not even close. The love I feel for my son can not be compared.
It dawned on me that I still have a long way to go.
If I think about it, would I ever have such high expectation for my son?
Would I ever expect perfection from him? Would I ever be my sons worse critic?
That will never happen because I know what my son need from me, he needs love, hugs, smiles, praises, support, and safety.
I want my son to do well, and discouraging and criticizing is not the way.
The good things are that:
1. I now know how I’m supposed to feel about myself, the all-consuming love that just grows.
2. I now know in which direction I need to go and I will know it when I get there.
3. Next time I do something to put myself down, I’ll ask myself, would you do this to your baby?
Why is it so important to love yourself unconditionally?
Because self-love is believing in yourself.
Dare things, go after opportunities, stop doubting your abilities, take more risks and chances, and know you deserve the best.
If not you then who?
Another important thing is while raising my son I can affirm him as much as I want and give him all love and tell him the importance of self-loving.
If he doesn’t see self-love in his mother’s actions, the chances are that he is going to lack self-love.
“Your child will see
what you are all about
by what you live
rather than what you say.”
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So start loving yourself just the way you are, both the good and the bad like there is no tomorrow.
When you start to love yourself, you start freeing yourself from situations, people and things that aren’t good for you.
You start attracting better circumstances, people, and things into your life because you know you deserve it.